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Personal Heroes

This is a modified version of a chapter in the book I wrote about my childhood. The book is called, “Twelfth Child.”  It is not published, but now and then I use parts of it when I speak and bits and pieces of it have shown up here as part of blogs and in other ...
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The Trap of Regret: Hindsight is not “20/20″

You’ve no doubt heard the old saying, “Hindsight is 20/20.”  I take this to mean we see things looking back to our past much more clearly than we saw them when we were still in the past.  A related saying is, “If I had only known then what I now know, I would not have ...
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Forgiveness and Letting Go, Part II

Have you ever had a moment when you were willing to let go completely of all of the things that had ever been done to you?  When you didn’t care who did this or that, why they did it, whether they might try to do it again?  When you are seemingly filled to the brim ...
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The Gift of Therapy: My own experiences as a therapy client

  During one of the first few sessions, clients sometimes ask me if I have been in therapy myself. Not surprisingly, they find the question awkward because they both want an answer and consider it important and because they are not sure if it is okay for them to ask. As with almost anything in ...
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A Therapy of Existence, Part II

A Therapy of Existence, Part 1

Flexibility, Part III: Decisions in the moment and patterns of interaction

Flexibility: Part II, The Big Decisions

Flexibility: Part I, Flexibility is the Hallmark of Mental Health

Our Christmas Miracle

Choose your anxiety: Focus on what you know

A Theme for the Holidays: Stay frosty, stay flexible

Conflict, Part 3: Resolving conflict

Confllict, Part 2: The problem of conflict avoidance

Conflict, Part 1: “What is conflict?”

12-Step Recovery and Therapy, Part III: Using these ideas with clients

12 Step Recovery and Therapy: Part II, my own sobriety

12-Step recovery, Part 1: its influence on my identity

The Problem of “Situational Identity”

The Relief of Humility: “I am just some guy”

Co-dependency, a way out

How important is your past in therapy?

Forgiveness and Letting Go, Part 1

Choose your anger

Feelings, good and bad, make your choice

What is “verbal abuse?”

A Tribute to Abraham Lincoln

When is an apology really an apology?

Choose your guilt

The Holidays are your time too!

Effective Management: Balancing the Key Ingredients

Meaning and purpose without limits

Happiness is a side-effect of meaning

Depression and Anxiety: Flip sides of the same coin, Part 3

Depression and Anxiety: Flip sides of the same coin, Part 2

Depression and Anxiety: Flip sides of the same coin, Part 1

Substance and Process

What is “Mental Health?” Part II

The Forest and the trees

“To the weak I became weak”

What is “mental health,” Part 1

Thinking in thirds

“Solutions, not problems”

DEA and CIA–Making Better Decisions

Authenticity–Part 2: Why it is important

Acknowledging the problem is not enough

Gestalt Prayer by Fritz Perls

ADHD and Therapy: beyond medication

Authenticity: Being with your-self

Anxiety–a story of two powerful mistakes