I can safely say nearly all of my clients have issues that would be far less important to their daily feelings of well-being if they were able to establish more consistent and healthy boundaries with the people they are close to in their lives. What do I mean by “healthy” boundaries? Boundaries in which you are able to ask for and get what you need, without feeling like you are compromising your independence or asking someone else to compromise their independence.
Boundaries are like walls. Walls are both necessary and can be problematic. We need walls for our personal identities to stay intact. We need walls to filter out how others interact with us and how we decide to interact with them. A person with a healthy personality makes good decisions about when to use walls as needed, and let them down when that is most beneficial.